This kind of double talk in Scripture drives me nuts! :)

This is the kind of verse that invites the charge of the Bible being contradictory and it drives me nuts. 

1 Peter 3:1-6(NKJV)

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 

when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 

Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—

rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 

For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 

as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

So here we have Peter telling women to fear and not to fear within 5 verses of each other.  I'm sure I could go in and rationalize and justify what he meant but that just looks weak.  I'd rather let Scripture stand on its own.  It is what it is. 

I guess this is just another example of why we need the Holy Spirit to provide discernment as we study God's Word!