Once again, who you gonna listen to, Jesus or James?

Here is what James said about judging.  Notice his statement is an absolute.  No nuance.  Simply do not judge others period.

James 4:12(NKJV)

There is one Lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy. Who are you to judge another?

Now compare that to what Jesus said.  Here are a couple of verses from Matthew.  I could come up with several more in the rest of the Gospel

Matthew 10:11(NKJV)

“Now whatever city or town you enter, inquire who in it is worthy, and stay there till you go out. 

Matthew 10:13-14(NKJV)

If the household is worthy, let your peace come upon it. But if it is not worthy, let your peace return to you. 

And whoever will not receive you nor hear your words, when you depart from that house or city, shake off the dust from your feet. 

To decide if a "household is worthy" requires a judgment does it not?  And notice that Jesus even takes it a step further.  Jesus says that if in your judgment the household is not worthy then you should withhold your peace from that household. 

So once again when you have a direct contradiction like this, who you going to listen to, Jesus or James?

I choose Jesus!