"...I have tested you in the furnace of affliction."

 

Isaiah 48:10(NKJV)

10    Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver;     I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.

How can that be loving some would ask?  Well the truth is that somethings we can only learn through the trials of life.  If there was another way I'm sure God would take it but there isn't. 

So how can this be loving?  Easy.  If it is a lesson we need to learn then it is loving to teach it to us in whatever way is necessary.