How does Jesus love His neighbors by gloating over them?

I just love the intricacies of the Bible and how the Holy Spirit reveals things along the way as you study. 
 

I also get a kick out of people who try to use certain verses of Scripture to try and silence Christians who criticize them.  One of those goes something like this. 

"Hey Jesus said to love your neighbor.  Criticizing me isn't very loving.  Bad Christian.   Bad, bad Christian!"  :)

Check out this passage and I'll make my point on the other side.
 

Colossians 2:8-15(NKJV)

8Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ. 

9For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 

10and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.

11In Him you were also circumcised with the circumcision made without hands, by putting off the body £of the sins of the flesh, by the circumcision of Christ, 

12buried with Him in baptism, in which you also were raised with Him through faith in the working of God, who raised Him from the dead. 

13And you, being dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He has made alive together with Him, having forgiven you all trespasses, 

14having wiped out the handwriting of requirements that was against us, which was contrary to us. And He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross. 

15Having disarmed principalities and powers, He made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them in it.

First off I found the first highlighted part interesting.  I think it speaks to those "false prophets" who like to convince you that it is better to combine the best from all religions, etc.  I think the warning is clear.  Christ is enough.  Don't fall for their false claims.  If you do God will hold you accountable for allowing yourself to be misled.

Now on to my main point.  Look at the last highlighted part.  Jesus triumphed over "principalities and powers".  Look at how He did it.  Did He do it quietly so as not to embarrass them?  Nope!  What does it say He did.  He did it publicly and made a spectacle of it!

Well gee, that isn't very loving is it?  Can't you just hear it now?

So how do we answer that?  Personally I don't have any problem with it when I take all Scripture into account.  I can see how this is very loving and at the same time still respects peoples free will.

It was very loving in that Jesus took some who had voluntarily declared themselves as enemies of God by rejecting Jesus, and He made a very public example of them.  He respected their free will and at the same time used them to influence and improve the lives of others.
 

OK but what about "love your enemies".  What about it?  Jesus demonstrates that love by being willing to forgive and accept His enemies back into the fold….as soon as the ask for that forgiveness and accept Jesus.  But that doesn't mean that Jesus doesn't continue to respect their free will choice and deal with them as enemies in a practical sense in the mean time. 

Make sense?